bismillah arRahmaan arRaheem
I empower and equip my child with knowledge that they don't understand yet because I am a Confidant.
One who is able and willing to expose the things that may not fit the status quo in hopes to create a deeper understanding in their children is what we consider a Confidant.
We naturally take on the role of the Confidant as we answer the questions by our little ones, especially when they ask us "why?" However this role is not one that stays as passive as simply answering a toddler’s questions. This role is very demanding and requires parents to continue to grow and get wisdom from their life's lessons.
One of the greatest satisfactions of the Confidant is that we get to experience the trust of our children and we see how the information we share with them may affect their thinking and behavior. Once we pull our children into the inner circle, we show them that we care about them, love them, and want them to understand things on a level that many tend to neglect.
Let me share an example of how powerful the Confidant can be;
Imagine you teach your children how the days of the week Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, and Saturday are all pagan and based on kufr. While you explain to them that the Sun god that they worshiped was given the first day of the week followed by their Moon god, then by Tyr and so on and so on until it ends at their god Saturn. Your children will likely be impressed and astonished at how deep kufr remnants are ingrained in our daily lives. This opens up the a discussion or reminder on the sweetness of Islam that saved us from this and naming the Islamic days of the week. This same type of thing can also be done with the months of the Gregorian calendar.
When you build this knowledge and make your child aware, it builds trust and respect but most importantly when you tie the beauty of Islam into these real life lessons, it builds the Islamic identity and allows them to be grateful.
Let us be strong confidants and educate our children to the many tricks of the Shayateen that are around us everyday, both online and offline. Of course this requires that we know about things that are not common knowledge. The great thing is that it isn't difficult to know more than most average parents, they aren't taking the time to expose the tricks and enlighten their children to the sweetness of Islam. Many unfortunately are wasting time watching television all day or spending time in idle talk.
Let's avoid that trap and do what Allah has informed us to do in His final revelation in the 6th ayah of the 66th surah: O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.
I want to hear you say, "I am an Outstanding Muslim Parent and I love being a Confidant because my children know more than you may think!"
Remember a WISH changes NOTHING but a DECISION changes EVERYTHING!
Nazir binNaseeb Al-Mujaahid
Author of Muslims Parenting on Purpose Vol. 1